Recently, I’ve had the opportunity to chat up a few men who are not involved directly in the Leather/Kink community. Granted, the reasons for our interactions weren’t necessarily to talk. However, more and more, I’m finding that my quest for carnal satisfaction involves more than just the need for physical gratification. I find that sexual […]
“In the age we live in, every flaw and misstep is recorded on film or video, then spilled like red ink over the Internet and discussed ad nauseam, until even the photographic evidence comes into question. Whether it’s a grainy, night-vision sex tape, a DUI mug shot or a fashion blunder that results in exposing
“Who are you? Who? Who? Who? Who?” –Roger Daltrey I was talking to my romantic partner in crime, Millie, and we were talking about the “invisible colors” sort to speak; those of us in the community who aren’t really represented either in pop culture in general or even within the community itself. Millie is a
With Pride celebrations around the corner, and warmer weather, I’d like to make what I call a “modest proposal.” Elsewhere, I have admitted to trolling Facebook. Rather than spending the rest of our natural lives discussing whether FB honestly reflects or distorts a clear vision of our communities, humor me and assume this: A lot
“ Long before we had to suffer through the tired tropes of today’s romantic comedies, we had fairy tales; the sugar-spun stories of our childhood that made us believe in unrealistic things like talking animals, happy endings and Prince Charmings. They also made us puzzle over another important fact. No, I’m not talking about the
Dear Hateful Members of Society, Why do you not respect my presence? I am human. I breathe, sleep and eat just like you do.When you see me walk in a room, instead of cracking jokes or bringing unwanted attention to me, let’s have lunch, or a conversation. I can promise if you take the time
“ What exactly IS sex? Don’t worry, no need to doubt my credentials. I’m fully educated in many, many facets of sex and all of its peaks and valleys. But sex itself means different things to different people. So, to quote renowned 20th century poets Cheryl James and Sandra Denton: “Let’s talk about sex.” Don’t
Privilege is a word and concept I’ve seen bantered around in our community as of late. Most notable is how we use it to define our experience, based on our perception of the power of others. We’ve all seen and heard the dialogues about the problems inherent in White, male, cisgender privilege and the resulting
Feel the ‘Bern’ – You have heard the slogan by now. But I certainly wasn’t expecting much more from him, or any politician, in this cycle. I like being surprised – even if it’s by a Rachel Maddow podcast. Did I hear Rachel ask “the Bern” — Bernie Sanders — what he thought about Hillary’s
“ Words. You’re reading them now, you speak them all day long, and without them, the world would come to a screeching halt. Words themselves are inert; mere symbols cobbled together so we can communicate the things in our shared experience that are intangible. So much of what we perceive cannot be expressed, but when
