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Pecs and the City

A few weeks ago, I overheard two young boys talking in the hyperactive, rushed tones that could only come from the fourth grade. I missed the gist of the conversation, but I did overhear this gem: “You have a girlfriend? That is so gay!” I don’t condone using that word in a derogatory sense, of […]

Advice: Outside the Box

Dear Dr. Fred: A life-long friend of mine (40+ years) retired a year ago when he was offered a buy-out by his company. He got a nice sum, a pension and has a well-off family so while he occasionally complains he “needs the money” he has not worked in a year and would never need

Twitter War Using NOH8 Message as a Weapon Is Not Acceptable

I’m straight, and I want to talk about NOH8.  And how it affects me. When I first moved to Vieques Island, Puerto Rico, and opened Weddings in Vieques, people cautioned me that I should not plan gay weddings.  Let me be clear – this is a gay-friendly island (lots of gay-owned businesses, gay residents, etc.)

Twenty-Thirteen

Let this sink in: We’re nearly 14 years into the 21st century. 2004 will soon be TEN years in the past. Hell, 2024 is *only* ten years away. Seriously, where has the time gone? Twenty-thirteen flew by. It seems like yesterday House Republicans were throwing a bitch-fit about the Affordable Care Act and shutting down

Why Are Gay Men Still Marrying Straight Women? Its Time to Stop!

It’s okay to be gay.  No really, in the 21st century, as we move forward, it’s more okay to be gay every day… and more and more men and women are coming out of the closet, announcing their sexual orientation, and now getting LEGALLY married to members of the same sex.  Even the US military

Advice: Outside the Box

Dear Dr. Fred: My partner and I have been socializing a lot lately with another gay couple we met while on vacation last year. I’ll refer to them here as “Tom and Larry. ” These guys are what some of us like to call members of the “A-Gay List,” a real class act, if you

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LGBT workplace protections at what cost?

Sen. Tammy Baldwin (D-Wis.) addressed reporters following the vote on cloture on the Employment Non-Discrimination Act in the U.S. Senate. (Washington Blade photo by Michael Key) On Monday, the Employment Non-Discrimination Act passed a Senate cloture vote. This bill has been floating around Congress for decades, and needs to be passed — workplace discrimination based

HIV/AIDS: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Recently, I had the privilege of being able to walk in the 2nd Annual Fresno AIDS Walk.  Having known people who have died from AIDS related complications, events like this one always hit close to home.  As a gay man, HIV/AIDS has always been “something to think about.”  I guess though that I take it

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Time to Move On

The Garden State has become the latest state to legalize marriage equality, bringing the total number of U.S. states where equality is the law of the land up to 14, plus Washington D.C. While it is not surprising that the New Jersey Supreme Court ruled in favor of same-sex couples – given the recent court